Category Archives: Barnstable Town Council

V for Vendetta

by Taryn Thoman

I’m sure by now you’ve all seen the incredible shoot out at a school committee meeting in Florida.

Preparing for his suicide, a large bi-polar man spray painted a big V with a circle around it on the wall of the meeting room, and then produced a loaded handgun from his pocket. Apparently his graffitti message was a reference to the film “V for Vendetta”.

The central message from “V”, the main character in the film, is that “People should not be afraid of their governments. Governments should be afraid of their people.”

It looked to me like the shooter was more interested in being killed than actually killing anyone. Either that or he was the worst shot in the state of Florida.

My first thought was of the incident a few years back in Kirkwood, MO, where an unhappy resident shot up a city council meeting, leaving six people dead.

My second thought was one of the piles of hate posts by former disgraced Barnstable Town Council President, Janet Joakim, who asked in relation to the Missouri incident: “Could it happen here?” She then answered her own question anonymously, as is her custom, that the council should be very concerned about Taryn Thoman, who will someday snap, because she is so “out of control”.

Amazingly, as she was using her bully pulpit to attack me, a private citizen, taxpayer and voter, Joakim submitted that she and her pals in town hall and at the Barnstable Police department are victims of irrational hatred and should be on some sort of alerted status.

“K” is for Karma.  It seems that Joakim and her goobers from the hoods, cop shop, and town hall are now getting a big faceload of it.  You get what you give, folks.

If government in Barnstable should, as Janet Joakim,  the sickest bitch in town suggested, be afraid of it’s people, then who is the government in Barnstable?

According to a recent statement from town councilor and hobbler of his people, Greg Milne, the council is the public’s check and balance above the municipal corporation, which is almost everything else in town hall.

Milne, who once represented himself as a champion of  “the little guy”, orchestrated a stunt carried out by his pompous neighbor, Milton Berglund.  This lead to an outrageously oppressive act by the council that forced an antiquated and widely unaffordable sewer project on a largely lower/fixed income population of his precinct.

I’ve only been paying attention to the activities of our local government/corporation for a few years now, but I can’t remember a time when the possibility of a shooter at town hall was bigger than around this time last year.

That’s when the downtrodden voter/taxpayer/residents of Stewart’s Creek repeatedly appeared at town council meetings begging for a break, some accurate and thorough information, or a shred of hope.  Sadly they were met with silence, misinformation, insults, or stupidity from a majority of our town “leaders”.

Those people were bullied into a service they didn’t want or need, and certainly could not afford.

Some of them have already put their homes on the market.

I spoke several times to one elderly gentleman from Phase II, who had recently lost his wife.  He broke down in tears as he told me how he and his wife had enjoyed the home with their seven children, and later with grandchildren, for decades of Cape Cod summers.  A league of residents tried to help him.

I drove by his place a few weeks ago.  Apparently the only help he’s getting now is from a realtor.

From this and several other painful experiences attempting to right the wrongs of our local legislators and corporation, I’d say the reality, given the general apathy of the Barnstable voters and widespread croneyism in town hall, is that the people should be afraid of their government.

The big time smackdown of the local ballot questions on sewers and roads in November was a pleasant surprise, but the hundred and fifty million dollar corporate monster isn’t going to remain stunned for long.

Chances are I will continue to try righting wrongs.  Equal chances are my successes will be small, unless I win $150 million in the lottery and want to spend it fighting the Barnstable Beasts of Burden for the rest of my life.

One consistent message throughout the piles of bully studies I’ve read this year is that to succeed in eliminating bully behaviors, the culture of what is acceptable has to change.

When Janet Joakim was publishing in her capacity as the highest elected official in the Town of Barnstable that I was crazy enough to shoot up town hall, my husband was a “jobless drunk”, and taking shots at my 1st grader, all but one of our town “leaders” had nothing to say about her cyberbullying behavior.

Ironically, one of her stronger supporters,  Senator Rob O’Leary, helped push through the legislation that made bully Joakim’s behaviors illegal.  I’m not sure how much that changed what clearly appears to be a bully culture throughout our town, however.

Hopefully you will do something to brighten, rather than soil someone’s day today.  If you’re out shopping, getting gas in the car, or picking up your child at school, try wearing a Santa hat.  I’ve been doing it for the past week, and it’s amazing how quickly some people smile when they see the hat.

I remember when Gary Brown, presiding as President of the Barnstable Town Council, wore a Santa hat throughout a December council meeting. 

I’m smiling now!



NO MEANS NO!

A friend from Hyannis called me this afternoon to let me know about a rumor that Janet Joakim is telling people I hacked into the town clerk’s computer and tampered with election results.  

Apparently town officials are so freaked out by the overwhelming NO votes on the local sewer and road ballot questions from Tuesday’s election, that they couldn’t bear to show up at last night’s council meeting.

WOULD SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME WHY TOWN OFFICIALS ARE SO SURPRISED AT THE NO VOTES?

Voters have been saying NO to big sewer for over a year.

On June 25th and August 6, 2009, voters turned out in big numbers to say NO, one after another, after another.

Over three thousand voters said NO on a petition submitted to and certified by the town clerk, asking the council to listen again while they said NO to big sewer for Stewart’s Creek.

Councilors had a chance to smarten up and reconsider the will of the voters on August 27, 2009, but refused.

That same night, against pleadings from our elected town clerk,  councilors orchestrated, for the second time in the history of the town, a special election scam to prevent the civic minded  among us from having our vote count.

77% of voters who turned out for the October 13th special election again said NO to big sewer, but town officials were not concerned, because they successfully crushed the will of the voters, again. 

Town Manager John Klimm said yesterday that he expects the council to be  “as anxious as I am to decide what to do with roads or sewer funding.”

Now they’re anxious?  They should have been anxious a year ago when 77% of voters said NO WAY, when Stewart’s Creekers recalled their crummy councilor, when meeting after meeting, people of all ages were sobbing and begging for mercy.

We need a Gomer Pyle impersonator at the next council meeting, (if they bother to show up) to walk up to the podium and yell SHAME, SHAME, SHAAAAAAAME!

When the voters finally had a fair opportunity to vote on the sewer and road issues at the general election, they said HELL F’n NO, 72% and 82%, respectively.

This mess should have been settled a year ago.  Thirty grand was wasted on the October 13th election, and the town wants to waste another $30K in pamphlets to educate the public about the need for sewers and the taking of private roads.

Hey Town of Barnstable Officials - You can hire Donny Deutsh and go on prime time every night with your educational materials, but as long as the same people keep sending the same message, voters will give you the same response.  NO!

When it comes to these issues, you have a credibility problem.  That’s what happens when you change your story five times in three months, folks.  We have no confidence in your ability to spend our money wisely, and we really don’t want you forcing oppressively expensive 30 year old technology on us in the middle of a depression, or any other time.

We’ve told you on the blogs, we’ve told you in the newspapers, we’ve told you at the council meetings, and most importantly, we told you at the polls.  No get off your asses and go find us some help.  Isn’t that your job? 

Lastly, would someone please tell  me where I might find a job description for a Barnstable Town Councilor?  I’m pretty sure that attacking my baby on your barf blog isn’t part of the gig.  Greg Milne says his living room isn’t ‘information central’.  Jim Crocker said he’s not there to have a rock fight, and I know that most councilors aren’t interested in  conversation that includes any type of disagreement.  Now we are to accept that unless an agenda is flooded with ‘to do’ lists, they don’t even have to show up at council meetings.  Who is running this asylum, anyway?

SUICIDE IS PAINLESS

by Taryn Thoman

If asked, most Americans over the age of 40 can hum or whistle the tune to the 70s television series “M*A*S*H”. Most probably don’t know the title of the song or the fact that it had lyrics, however. The lyrics were written by director Robert Altman’s 14 year old son, Mike.

As a teenager, I learned the lyrics and guitar chords, and often played the song in clubs/lounges in later years. There are great versions – like the instrumental by The Ventures, and hideous versions with lyrics, like the one by Marilyn Manson.

I couldn’t get the song out of my head as I sat listening to Maura Weir, from the Cape & Islands Suicide Prevention Coalition, address the town council Thursday night. Check out this YouTube with the movie version:

Janice Barton had previously announced that she would be talking more about the new anti-bully legislation at the Sept. 2nd meeting, so I felt that would be the best time to let our town officials know that if they are going to start taking steps to prevent bullies from hurting people, they should start with themselves and each other.

Battling a headache, hot flashes, and bullies on the council bench was not the greatest way to kick off the last weekend of the summer, but it had to be done:

Taryn 090210
Taryn 090210
¢º

Council president and criminal defense attorney Fred Chirigotis seemed to act on instinct rather than reason, after I uttered the infamous “kid of convenience” remark from councilor Janet Joakim’s bully blog. Fred was unable to finish his thought, so I ignored his improper interruption.

While I was careful not to use anyone’s name in my statements, I wasn’t exactly sure why. At best these councilors are inconsistent when imposing the strange rule about naming the individuals public speakers are addressing or referring to.

No Names, Please
No Names, Please
¢º

Where did this rule come from, and how do we get rid of it? I don’t want to go up there and speak in code, I want the unsuspecting taxpayers in this town to know exactly who I’m talking about.

Town of Barnstable – “Helping one child, one family, and one neighborhood at a time ” MY ASS!

Over the years I’ve heard complaints from councilors about their frustration over speakers who leave before council response. It seems reasonable that if you want to ask something of the council, you should hang around for a response, so I did.

Chirigotis gets a point in the bully score card for eliminating council response to public comment Thursday night.

It’s too bad the television audience couldn’t see or feel the tension in that room as I handed the four restraining orders for my child’s protection to the town clerk. You could cut it with a chainsaw.

I left after Jan Barton spoke. She gave handouts of the new anti-bullying law(s) to her fellow councilors, but did not discuss the statistics of HPOs in Barnstable since the laws went into effect in May.

On the way out of the building I spoke briefly with Maura, the youth suicide prevention project manager for the Cape & Islands Suicide Prevention Coalition. She told me that the coalition received a grant for its work because Barnstable’s suicide rate is significantly higher than the state’s average.

There are six suicides for every one homicide in Barnstable County.

All demographics and age groups, including youth, elderly, and the LGBT population are affected, but middle-aged white males are one of the highest at-risk groups.

A few years ago, Janet Joakim and her crew of ugly smear campaigners, branded me and several individuals looking to significantly change the town’s charter, as “hate bloggers”. One of those individuals was a 36 year old white male.

Joakim instructed her small readership to “Please don’t give any of these people your vote on Tuesday”.

Myself excluded, the individuals branded and smeared by Joakim and her ilk, finished in the bottom group of candidates.

The following spring, the 36 year old man took his own life with excessive amounts of alcohol and a long barreled firearm. Another of the branded candidates, who was terminally ill at the time, has since passed away. In a small town like ours, one would expect Joakim to remove such garbage from the internet out of respect for those men’s families, right? Wrong.

What about the town manager, town attorney, or the other 12 councilors? Don’t you think they might try to influence a more compassionate representation of our town to the world wide web by a Barnstable town official? Not a chance.

This isn’t going to be a blog about Janet Joakim, and despite popular opinion, I don’t hate the woman. I try not to hate anyone, because I don’t want to roll around in the mud with the lower ranks of our species. However as his mother, I will fight to protect my child at any cost.

September 5-12 is National Suicide Prevention Week. Let the people who matter in your life know they have value. Stop sending those annoying FWD:s, and get out a pen and paper. Bring back the lost art of a hand written personal note!

For more information on the Cape & Islands Suicide Prevention Coalition, visit www.suicideispreventable.net.

Bullycide

by Taryn Thoman

When he was just six years old, my son was the victim of cyberbullying by the town of Barnstable’s highest elected official.

Now that he’s turned nine, my son is interested in surfing the net.  While vacationing in Ohio last week, he and his cousin came across a lot of the filth that has been written about him and his parents on the internet.  He finally found out what the mean neighbor kids were talking about when they taunted him about Janet Joakim’s website.

The first question my child asked me after the discovery was

Why did Janet Joakim write mean things about ME?

To this day, I am unable to give him an answer other than to tell him that

she is a mean person.

Mercifully the kids, who were googling our names just feet away from where I was sitting, didn’t get to the real filth on the mentally ill Mary Clements site.  Note to self – NEVER turn your back on the monitor when your child is on the computer!

Followers of local blogs & town council meetings will recall that before she followed Joakim’s lead, Clements expressed outrage at Joakim’s attack on my first grader, but was chest bumped off the dias by the cops.  Joakim stated that the very mention of her cyberbullying made her

uncomfortable.

I didn’t make Joakim’s mean girl cyberbullying an issue during the recall campaign, because at the time, although she was clearly abusing her position as council president, it wasn’t the reason the people of the 6th precinct wanted her recalled.  They were more concerned with her bullying of the Zoning Board of Appeals.

You may have seen the news item today about an office worker from a The University of Virginia who committed suicide as a result of being taunted and harassed repeatedly by his boss, creating a toxic work environment.  On July 30th at 9:47 am the employee received an abusive e-mail from his boss, and at 11:30 am, he called the police to report a shooting.  Then he shot and killed himself.

In his suicide note, the man blamed his boss, saying he couldn’t bear it anymore.  At the time of his death he was reading a book entitled

Working With the Self Absorbed

which deals with how to handle narcissistic personalities on the job.

The man’s phone bill showed that he had made 17 telephone calls to University officials in the week leading up to his death.

While it can be a fine line between a tough boss and a bully, this was an apparent case of regular and endless abuse from a mean-spirited bully with authority over his victim, who loved his job.  He’d suffered from depression, and the final abusive e-mail was the last straw.

Until my Joakim/neighbor nightmare  began when I was 46 years old, I’d never been bullied in my life.  Sure, people might have been mean or called me names, but I’d never been the subject of such hateful gossip, covert and passive-aggressive assaults, or systematic attempts by teams of people to undermine my ability to live a peaceful life.

I’d never met people like Joakim or my neighbors before.  I didn’t know people with children, jobs and mortgages could be so pervertedly obsessed with efforts to dismantle a person’s happiness over a teeny tiny political or territorial dispute.

Unlike the poor guy in Virginia, I did not have a history of depression, so the very public multi-pronged attacks on my family did not ultimately destroy me, much to the disappointment of the assailants.

What I do have in common with the guy from VA,  is that I reached out to authorities for help, and was met with gross ignorance and/or silence.  This is where the bullys initially gained their ground.   

The question today is, will those same people who defended Joakim’s out of precinct vendetta recall defend her assaults on my six year old son now that there are laws against what she did?

The last time I spoke at a council meeting, Joakim asked that everyone

consider the source

regarding my statement that she’d bullied yet another Barnstable resident via the internet.

The time has come for town councilors to indeed consider the source, which is now a section of the General Laws of Massachusetts. 

Over the past few years, public comment has swelled with an increasing number of residents who are angry at their mistreatment by members of the town council, Barnstable Police Department, and other town officials. 

Look at how many months the residents of Stewart’s Creek had to grovel, cry and beg to be shown some mercy in order to live without the agonizing fear that they will be forced out of their homes?  Even with a 50% betterment, homes will be lost over the forced sewering in the area.

How long will Patrick Page and his wife have to ask for help before they get any?

Charging residents unhappy with local government with criminal harassment to wear them down is proving to have the opposite effect.  The time has come to shame the devil.

Before the town passes out anymore misguided do-gooder awards, they’re going to have to answer to the people they themselves have bullied.  The last thing Barnstable needs is to be put on national television for another case of bullycide.

Coming Soon – barnstablebullies.com

by Taryn Thoman

I recently hopped on the town website to look up an old council meeting when I saw an item for a “No Place For Hate Peace Builders Award Nomination”.

Over the past four weeks, I’ve been battling another cluster of migranes that includes rather violent naseau. Immediately after reading about this latest attempt by the town to slather lardy frosting over its hateful underbelly, I hurled into the trashcan next to my desk.

As you may know, I served on the No Place For Hate Committe and one of its sub-committees for a brief time in 2007. I’d discussed the shockingly hateful verbal assault my then 36 year old adult male neighbor aimed at my then four year old son, with a woman from HAC named Hilary Greene. Greene brought the story to NPFH Chair Janice Barton’s attention and Barton approached my neighbors. Of course the neighbors whined that they were victims of false reports, and Barton was too stupid to look beyond the surface of the situation.

Alarming stupidity also caused Barton to drop the ball on the first Hate Crime committed in the town since its NPFH designation.

The NPFH committee lost several valuable members after the bumbling of the hate crime at Calvary Baptist Church in Hyannis because members felt the committee was in name only. One of those former members currently serves with blockhead Barton on the town council today, and another was Sylvia Doiron, wife of the late great Peter Doiron.

Peter wrote a letter to the editor in June 2007 regarding the NPFH fiasco:

LORD BYRON HAD IT RIGHT To the Editor:

 Joe Burns’ and The Register’s recent series on Barnstable’s No Place For Hate mise-en-seene should be mandatory reading in journalism classes.

 I was surprised that NPHC doesn’t have a definitive hate policy in place. My understanding was that it favored some state definitions. Hate is amorphous and the dividing line between love and hate is blurred at best. Consider this winter’s opposition to the constitutionally guaranteed recall movement. People expressed fear, which is a form of hate.

 Then there is the “shoemaker in spite of himself” syndrome. The town council itself has allowed, therefore encouraged, hate speech. One councilor called another a “squid, a loser.” Another accused a citizen of being a “terrorist” on town TV. A black councilor said a white colleague was a “honky.” Self-hatred has emerged as four women councilors abide a town employee found guilty of wife-abuse and murder threats. The appointments committee once employed star-chamber proceedings to deny an office seeker. A long-time airport watchdog was recently read bogus trespass violations which completely lacked due process.

What to do? Calling the hate-spade nothing but vandalism is pure whitewash. Painting over offensive graffiti only further obscures racial realities. Remember, Adolph Hitler was a fastidious man who didn’t drink booze or eat red meat. Also, the council president’s blog attacks NPHC critics as the real haters. She, of course, is a happy hater. No wonder a contemporary Ohioan calls the Cape “angry ground.”

 Peter Gay’s book on hate is invaluable. Oran’s “Dictionary of the Law” (3rd. ed.) may be a good place to start defining. Hate, says Oran, “is a crime that violates a person’s civil rights and is motivated by hatred for a particular group. …” And, “civil rights includes freedom of speech, freedom of association, and freedom of religion [and] the Civil Rights Acts found in the U.S. Code, Title 42.”

 Keep in mind what Lord Byron once said:

 The ruling principle of Hate,

Which for its pleasure doth create

 The things it may annihilate.

 Peter Doiron

Here’s the application from the town site. Excuse me while I ralf again…..

Town of Barnstable
No Place for Hate Committee
Peace Builders Award Nomination

Please support our efforts to promote unity, appreciate diversity, and create community right here in our home town. Peace Builders are people who are willing to stand up for others in the face of conflict, violence, discrimination, racism, or hatred. (You might just be one yourself!)

The Barnstable No Place for Hate Committee is looking for stories to share with the whole community. Each recipient will be recognized by the Committee and selected stories will be published in our local newspapers. The only requirements are that you
and the person you nominate be residents of the Town of Barnstable, and that the person nominated has not received any other kind of recognition for their act of kindness.

If you’d like to nominate someone for a Peace Builders Award, please complete the following information and forward it to:

Town of Barnstable No Place for Hate Committee
c/o Janice Barton
367 Main Street, Hyannis, MA 02601

For more information and/or electronic application, email JLBartonMM@aol.com
Please tell us about a time when someone stood up for you, or you stood up for someone else.
What was the situation? _______________________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________________________________
Who was the “Peace Builder” in this situation (It’s OK if it’s you!)?
Please provide all of the information that you have and that you feel comfortable sharing.
Name
Address
Town State Zip
Phone – -
E-mail
What is your name and contact information?
Name
Address
Town State Zip
Phone – -
E-mail
Thank you for helping to make Barnstable a better place to live!

The No Place for Hate Committee is not a town committe, but rather, a town sponsored committee.  It is operated under the rules and regulations of the Anti-Defamation League.  In order to remain in good standing, designated NPFH communities must complete at least three or more community-wide anti-bias projects during the course of the year.  Some of these examples are to hold a ”Dance for Diversity”, sponsor a Pot Luck dinner serving Ethnic foods, or have a multi-cultural film festival.

In Barnstable, just dance the Macarena, eat a little hummus,  check out the latest foreign films, and you can be healed of your zeno, homo, allodoxa, neo, hobo, sino, Franco, Judeo,  caco, or any number of other phobias or biggoted behaviors.  (NOT!)

Is it just me, or does anyone else find it strange that we need to hand out an award when someone stops another from being cruel and abusive?  In most places across our country, kindness and respect are the norm, not the exception to it.  However, here in Barnstable, we are now going to have some of the most biggoted people in town handing out awards to people for fighting against bigotry and various other types of bully behavior.

 Barton’s childish outburst at the August 5th council meeting, followed by her outrageously hypocritical justifications for her behavior should really be forwarded to the Anti-Defamation League along with a request for her to be replaced in any capacity she may be serving.

If Barton had recognized the bullies in her own precinct three years ago, she could have saved my child the bully anxiety that has consumed HALF OF HIS LIFE.  Barton generally runs away from controversy, which makes her a poor choice to be an effective bully battler.  I’ll admit that my circumstances are rare – having the president of the town council attack my six year old child, backed up by the entire council, and then followed by even worse attacks by the town lunatic, the local police department, court magistrate, and a sucker punch from David Still of the Barnstable Patriot, all because of my well intended attempts to keep young children from being neglected and sexually molested.  In Barnstable, the road to hell is indeed paved with good intentions.

I’ve read several books on bullying – what the root causes are, who the victims tend to be, and the best way to handle being the object of bully behavior.  Over the course of the past five years, at one time or another, I employed every type of response recommended by authors, experts, and various government and other agency officials with little or no peaceful resolution to the bullying and cyberbullying of my family.

It was not until the new restraining order law, Chapter 258E of the General Law of Massachusetts,  went into effect May 10th of this year, that we were able to employ a legal avenue (outside of a very expensive and protracted lawsuit) to stop the five year bully festival aimed at our son, who just turned nine years old:

”The complainant should have experienced 3 instances of harassment which is defined here in section 1 : “…acts of willful and malicious conduct aimed at a specific person committed with the intent to cause fear, intimidation, abuse or damage to property and that does in fact cause fear, intimidation, abuse or damage to property; or (ii) an act that: (A) by force, threat or duress causes another to involuntarily engage in sexual relations; or (B) constitutes a violation of section 13B, 13F, 13H, 22, 22A, 23, 24, 24B, 26C, 43 or 43A of chapter 265 or section 3 of chapter 272.”
This protective order can be issued against people who are not domestic partners or family members. Violations of a protective order are criminal offenses.”

This is the law Janice Barton refers to in the following video, as she attempted to justify making faces and snarky comments while West Barnstable resident Patrick Page was lawfully expressing his anger towards the council for their part in his malicious prosecution by the town.

Page was escorted from the meeting by Barnstable Police officers after he barked at Barton for her ironically bullyish behavior from the council bench.  Patrick is very angry at how he was treated by the town when he needed their help. He still needs their help.  He told me he couldn’t believe the faces Barton and Joakim were making at him and just lost it.  I can’t applaud his behavior, but I can seriously relate to it.

When appeals from my husband and a letter from my attorney failed to stop  her, I approached every town official I could think of who might convince then council president Janet Joakim that posting an ongoing one sided account of my neighborhood drama with cruel comments about my then six year old son was unethical, and, at the very least, unwise.        Thanks to the new cyberbully laws, it is now illegal. 

I’d written town attorney Bob Smith before he died, but received no response.  I met personally with Ruth Weil after Bob died. She told me that despite the fact that Joakim promoted herself as the President of the Town Council on her slimey blog, verbal attacks on a six year old child from the town’s highest elected official was ”not within the pervue” of the town attorney’s office.

By agreeing  to sponsor and weigh in on my neighborhood problems, Joakim empowered the bullys next door, who delighted in posting malicious and fantastic stories about me and my family on Joakim’s sevenvillagesblog.com.  Before her behavior created the massive the blog wars of 2007-2008, , we had enjoyed months of peace after agreeing to drop a variety of legal actions against the neighbors in both the civil and criminal courts.

Thanks to the new law, we were able to obtain restraining orders against the four children of Joakim’s hate-blogging pals.

Bigotry and hatred is indeed alive and well in Barnstable.  This is the root cause of many of our social problems as well as the hostile speakers every other Thursday night in town hall.  Tune in Sept 2nd.  You’ll probably see for yourself.

Merging soon to this site: barnstablebullies.com.

Now, Please excuse me, I’ve gotta go pray to the porcelain god again!